I was kidnapped in India once.
Call it the fates. Call it new-traveler naiveté. Call it getting into the wrong taxi.
The fact is, over a long, drawn out process, I slowly realized that I was in a situation that was, at the risk of sounding dramatic, life-or-death.
When I saw kidnappings in the movies or the news, the moment was clearly laid out when the captive should fight back, make a split-second save, or run at just the right moment to get away.
Being kidnapped in real life, I can tell you; it ain’t that way at all.
It was a slow, unclear path. As the situation escalated, my captors would start to yell at us more. They would strike at me, then recede into just talking with me. Just when I though I should fight, it became unclear whether or not that was the right thing to do.
It was confusing, unclear, and uncertain.
There was a sudden realization that the “right moment” would come ONLY when I decided it would. Write me to get the whole story, but it was the result of this true decision that I gained my freedom.
This principle was revealed in my life again and again; in the most profound relationship of my life, again in my life direction with our humanitarian work in Haiti, and, of most late, with State Of The Spark.
The Mark of True Decision
There are powerful decisions that are made. They are enforced by sheer will and “gutting it out.” This is highly worshipped in our era.
That’s not what I am talking about.
Certainty: A true decision is matter of fact. It is a matter of fact that one will accomplish so and so.
There is a peaceful shift to certainty that occurs internally. It is hard as granite and smooth as a river stone. No one can change your mind on the decision. Even if your most trusted friends opposed you, there would be no deliberating. There is no debate because it is matter of fact to you.
Self-Confidence: You are not only confident in the decision. You are confident in yourself. You are finally 100% confident that you are doing the right thing, so you are able to confidently move forward.
Clarity: The path is far more clear. Yes, there are still many details lacking, but the major thing you should be doing today should be clear. It makes sense in a way that has never occurred before.
Mild Objectivism: There is a slight disconnection to the actual outcome. Though the results may be very important, the decision itself and the effort put forth are far more important…but this usually makes all the difference! This objectivism allows for dynamic, creative ideas, a carefree approach, and a calm mind. The results come as the natural flow of activities that result from the decision. They are not wrestled down through desperate busy-ness.
This is a whole new experience, and to accomplish the really important goals, I know of no other way to achieve it than make a TRUE decision.
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Grant R. Nieddu
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